HOW I WORK
There is no script.
We start with what is
alive for you.
You don't need to arrive knowing exactly what you want to work on. You might come with a relationship that keeps repeating the same pattern, a conflict you can't make sense of, a dream that won't leave you alone, a major life transition, or simply the feeling that something isn't working anymore.
We begin there. Through honest conversation and curiosity, we look beneath the immediate problem and explore what may be happening underneath it.
THE EXPERIENCE
What a session with me is like.
Sessions are conversational, collaborative, and responsive to what you bring into the room. I listen not only to what happened, but also to recurring themes, emotional reactions, contradictions, relationship patterns, images, dreams, symbols, and the places where you seem to become particularly activated or stuck.
I may ask questions that invite you to look at something from an angle you haven't considered before. At times we may stay with a feeling or pattern. At other times we may explore a dream, relationship dynamic, recurring conflict, image, memory, or symbol that seems psychologically important.
The goal isn't for me to tell you who you are. It's to help you become more curious about yourself and begin recognizing the patterns that may already be shaping your choices, relationships, and sense of self.
HOW WE WORK TOGETHER
Four principles that guide the work.
WE FOLLOW WHAT HAS ENERGY
Strong reactions, recurring conflicts, fascination, resistance, dreams, attraction, anger, and fear can sometimes point toward something psychologically important. Rather than immediately pushing those reactions away, we become curious about what they may be telling us.
WE LOOK FOR PATTERNS
Instead of treating every problem as an isolated event, we look for what keeps repeating and explore what might connect experiences that initially seem unrelated.
WE GO BENEATH THE SURFACE
Sometimes the presenting problem isn’t the whole problem. A relationship conflict, for example, may touch an older complex, fear, expectation, projection, or way of relating that has been operating outside conscious awareness.
WE MAKE ROOM FOR THE UNEXPECTED
Not everything meaningful emerges through rational analysis. Dreams, images, symbols, associations, intuition, imagination, and spontaneous insights can sometimes reveal something that ordinary problem-solving misses.
WHERE IT CAN LEAD
What might we explore?
Relationships & Marriage
Patterns of attraction, conflict, communication, projection, boundaries, intimacy, resentment, and recurring relationship dynamics.
START HERE→Repeating Patterns & Complexes
The experiences that leave you wondering, “Why does this keep happening?” or “Why do I react so strongly to this?”
START HERE→Life Transitions & Identity
Career changes, endings and beginnings, questions of purpose, changing roles, feeling stuck, or realizing that an old version of your life no longer fits.
START HERE→Dreams & Inner Life
Dreams, recurring images, symbols, imagination, synchronicities, and material that seems to arise from somewhere beneath ordinary conscious thinking.
START HERE→Family & Relational Patterns
Old roles, expectations, boundaries, attachment patterns, family dynamics, and ways of relating that may continue long after the original circumstances have changed.
START HERE→
THE APPROACH
The Jungian lens.
My work draws from Jungian and depth psychology, which begins with a simple but profound idea: we are influenced by much more than what we consciously know about ourselves.
Jung described emotionally charged patterns as complexes. He explored archetypes, recurring patterns of human experience; the shadow, aspects of ourselves that may fall outside our conscious identity; projection, through which we may encounter parts of ourselves in other people; and individuation, the lifelong movement toward becoming a more whole and authentic person.
These aren't concepts I expect you to study before working with me. They are ways of listening and asking deeper questions when they become relevant to your experience.
GETTING STARTED
Your first session.
There is nothing special you need to prepare. Come with whatever feels most present.
We may begin with what brought you to the session, what has been happening recently, and what you would like to understand or change. From there, the conversation develops organically.
You are welcome to bring a dream, relationship situation, recurring problem, question, image, journal entry, or simply the sense that “something is going on and I don't quite understand it.”
“You don't need to have the right words. Finding the words can be part of the work.
WHERE WE MEET
Sessions are online
All individual coaching and dream work sessions are offered online, allowing us to meet from wherever you are in a private and comfortable setting.
Sessions are conversational, personal, and designed to create the same focused space for reflection and exploration that we would create together in person.
A NOTE ABOUT COACHING
Real Talk Reset currently offers Jungian coaching and personal-development work. Coaching can provide space for reflection, self-exploration, relationships, dreams, patterns, meaning, and personal growth. It is not psychotherapy, diagnosis, or treatment for a mental health condition. If your needs are better suited to clinical mental health treatment, I may encourage you to seek support from an appropriately licensed professional.
READY WHEN YOU ARE
You don't have to know exactly where to begin.
Sometimes knowing that something needs to be understood differently is enough.